Children: Age Appropriate?

Children!  Nothing can change the mood of a wedding more than those little darlings chosen to be the ring bearer and/or flower girls.  In my experience, I have seen them destroy a mood by crying or refusing to go down the aisle or be a comical mess with their interpretation of how they should go down the aisle.  One of the most frequent questions I get from clients is: what is the most appropriate age for a flower girl or ring bearer?  It depends.  There is really no definitive answer to this question. So how do you choose?  Let’s look at it…

Too Young?

Even though your three year old nephew or niece is cute and outgoing.  How will he/she be affected when all of those eyes are looking at him/her walk down the aisle?  Stage fright hits even the strongest of adults.  Yes it is true all they are doing is walking but for some little people it is a walk of death. All of those people staring at them…that’s scary!  Then there are a few, who will relish the stage and upstage everyone and everything.  Drawing attention to themselves, doing things they normally would not do but because the spotlight is on them they take advantage.

Too OLD!

Just like you don’t want a little one who is too young walking down the aisle.  Don’t embarrass a tweenager, especially young ladies, by giving them the honor of being your flower girl.   Young men generally don’t make a big deal out of being a ring bearer.  They are just happy they get to stand up front next to the groom.  There are always exceptions but generally tweenagers (ages 11-14) are NOT interested in “baby” jobs!

My Recommendation

Children participating in the ceremony be at least school age. Preferably in at least first grade.  Why?  Experience.  Maturity. Desire. Tweenagers, on the other hand, should be given the positions of Junior Groomsman/Usher or Junior Bridesmaid/hostess.  Here they still get the spotlight most tweenagers crave, without looking like a baby.  Before you assign these positions to tweenagers I would strongly suggest asking them first, if they would mind being a flower girl/ring bearer or would they prefer being a Junior Bridesmaid/Groomsman.   


All in all it is your choice.  Some of my clients like the excitement and drama little people bring.  At times they do make interesting, sometimes hilarious video footage.  Remember, the bottom line is what you want your guests’ take away to be; of that cute kid or the beautiful couple?  Do you want or need assistance creating a beautiful and memorable occasion that includes children?  Contact us at 216-672-5451

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Insurance for the Bride: A Diamond Ring

The following article about the tradition of giving a diamond engagement ring by M. Wyzanski was shared with me by Malky Okowita caught my attention.  I just love the history of traditions and here is one you might not know.

Insurance for the Bride

The Diamond Ring, ‘Symbol of Affection’ or ‘Collateral’?

They say diamonds are forever. So, when a man presents his bride-to-be with a diamond engagement ring, it stands to reason that it’s representative of the promise inherent to an eternal relationship of bliss.  From a historical standpoint, there’s another facet of sparkle.  By the mid-1940s the engagement ring was seen as something more. It was a form of insurance, so to speak, for the bride. Should her groom desert her, she had something of worth to take with her.  And considering the pricey cost of any such rock embellishing ring, a groom would think more than once before walking away from his commitment.

Today, just as in years gone by, the phenomenon of broken engagements exists. According to statistics, however, contemporary women involved in a breached engagement, by and large, return the jewelry they receive. For those that go on to actually tie the knot of marriage, obtaining a conventional form of insurance coverage for the diamond engagement ring guarantees protection in the event of an expensive loss.

Insuring Your Diamond Ring

Although a standard NJ Homeowners Insurance, including typical NJ Renters insurance, embraces the articles in your home, it has limited value.  A costly item like a diamond ring needs extended coverage. Known as scheduled personal property coverage, this addendum to your homeowners or renters insurance escalates the typical limits on your standard plan allowing your ring coverage for maximum appraised worth.

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Bridal Shows- 5 Things You Need

The Bridal Shows are Coming! The Bridal Shows are Coming!  Are you prepared?  Bridal shows are wonderful, exciting, and full of dreams but they are also confusing, repetitive and overwhelming.  These are adjectives used by brides who are unprepared to navigate through the journey called a bridal show.  In my professional opinion and from experience, there are five things you need when attending  bridal shows that will make your journey more pleasant.

  • Stickers with your name, contact information, and wedding date.  You are going to write the same information for just about every Service Provider you meet.  Consequently, having all of this information on a sticker saves you time and effort.
  • A calendar or plan book of your available dates and times.  If you meet your ideal Service Provider you are going to need to know your schedule or availability in order to set a meeting date and time.  Thus saving you time and the possibility of losing your dream Service Provider because someone else booked before you.
  • Comfortable Shoes.  This is NOT the time to wear those cute shoes you just bought..   You will be doing a lot of walking and standing on concrete floors, as most venues that host shows do not have cushioned flooring.  When your feet hurt, it makes for a miserable experience.
  • Patience.  Bridal Shows are notoriously busy places; with stressed out brides all looking for the best deal and best Service Providers.  Sometimes that means you will have to wait in order to speak with that ideal person you want.  In addition to patience….. 
  • Smile.   Your smile coupled with patience, something this simple can make or break your experience.  Smiles generate free thought and infer openness.  Free-thoughts and openness create pleasant conversations.  Pleasant conversations generate feelings of pleasure all of which translate into aiding in your planning being stress-free.  

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Wedding Planning Choices….

He asked. You said yes. You have your ring. What next? Your wedding planning choices…. Most brides or couples today, together with the Internet and their closest friends, choose to plan their own wedding.  Most do a fantastic job.  Frankly, I applaud their planning efforts.  So if that is the case and it’s that easy then why do couples need a Wedding Consultant? It is simple, couples can’t be everywhere.  Couples need to look for a consultant who offers a variety of services to meet the different needs of today’s couples.

For the couple who has the time, energy and patience to plan on their own, I say, go for it.  Personally, for me that is the fun part, which is why I became a consultant.  This couple is still going to need help tying up loose ends and with the little things on the day of the wedding. On that day,  the couple will be busy enough preparing themselves for the ceremony let alone checking on other details such as the flowers or ensuring the reception site is ready as contracted.  Their parents will busy with out of town guests and family consequently, they cannot do it. Their friends tend to get caught up in the excitement and forget they are part of what is happening, instead of watching it.    In swoops the wedding consultant to save everyone’s sanity.  This service is called, Day of or Month Of planning.  Here the consultant is charged with organizing, orchestrating, implementing and the development of a plan and a backup for anything that could possibly go wrong with the rehearsal, ceremony and/or the reception.

For couples who want/need help getting started or guidance along the way, Partial Planning Services would be best.  These couples do most of the work themselves with a planner serving as a consultant, that is making sure the chores involved in planning their big day are completed in a timely fashion, while also assisting the couple stay within their budget. Ideas should flow in both ways.  The consultant has to be able to hear what the couple is saying and be able to translate that idea into a doable service or be honest enough to say this is not going to come out the way you wish and have a workable solution.  Honesty and tact are key to assisting the couple in creating their dream day.  Friends tend to agree with the couple, when in their hearts they hate an idea, for the sake of maintaining their relationship.  Family members tend to disagree with the couple’s ideas.  In my experience, they relate to what they’ve seen or done in the past or would want to do themselves.  The consultant has no bias, consequently (usually) gives sound advice based on input from the couple.

The last kind of wedding planning service is Full Service Planning, is also the most expensive service.  Couples who choose this service are generally very busy or get bogged down when confronted with too many choices.  They only want to know when and where to be, thus, the consultant to does all of the running around, research and then presents the couple with two to three choices in each area of the preparation.  This level of assistance requires open and honest communication between the couple and their consultant. Failure to communicate by either party can end with disastrous results.

The wedding planning choices presented, represent the general levels of services offered by most Wedding Planning services.  There are many more options available depending on your needs.  The difference between a good consultant and a great one is not in what they do but how they do it.  If you have any questions or would like to use our services, do not hesitate to contact us at